Growing In Godliness Blog
Ready To Listen
By David Norfleet
For anyone that has been in a relationship for very long, you know it is easier to stick your foot in your mouth than to take it out. We often or frequently need help with how to communicate with others effectively. James does so by providing inspired instruction that will help in those situations. He wrote in James 1:19, “This you know, my beloved brethren. But everyone must be quick to hear, slow to speak and slow to anger.” If we would heed this instruction it would help in all our inter-personal relationships, but especially our relationship with God. And that seems to be James’ primary application as he points to the word of God in James 1:21, “…in humility receive the word implanted, which is able to save your souls.”
So, what does it means to be “quick to hear, slow to speak and slow to anger” with respect to God’s word?
To be quick to hear points to an eagerness to learn and a willingness to accept the things God has to say to us. We want instruction. We want counsel. We want wisdom from heaven. We need help. This idea is more of a disposition than an action, and it begins with humility – a recognition that we don’t have all the answers, but God does. Peter wrote in I Peter 2:2, “like newborn babies, long for the pure milk of the word, so that by it you may grow in respect to salvation.” Jesus knew of the importance of this quality in His followers so He wrote in Mark 4:24, “Take heed what you hear.”
How does being slow to speak relate to a reception of God’s word? It is generally true when you're talking or even thinking about what to say you are not listening. There is proven value in speaking less and listening more (Proverbs 10:19; 17:28), but it is critical when attending to God. In this text being slow to speak may actually mean “slowness to start speaking,” and have specific reference to ill-considered reactions to what God has said. How will we ever receive God’s instruction if we do all the talking or if we thoughtlessly react to justify ourselves, negate Scripture’s demands, or explain the Bible away? Our attitude needs to reflect the words of Samuel, “Speak, for Your servant is listening.” (I Samuel 3:9-10)
What do you do when God’s word steps on your toes? Maybe you’re reading it, or hearing it preached. It says something that you don’t like, because it confronts the way you think or live. Do you get angry and defensive, thinking, “What right does that preacher have to say that? How dare he tell me how to live!” Do you have these “flash-reactions” when your conscience is pricked? That is why it is so important to be slow to anger, as an angry spirit is not a teachable spirit. As James would write, “…the anger of man does not achieve the righteousness of God.” (James 1:20)
Popular author Francis Chan stated, “Whenever I read the Bible and come across something that I disagree with, I have to assume I am wrong.” He understands that the word of God and our reception of it is vital as it reveals, reproves, corrects, trains, revives us, directs us, keeps us from sin, and reveals God to us (Ephesians 3:1-4; II Timothy 3:16; Psalm 119:50, 105; Psalm 19). It is no wonder the psalmist would write, “I opened my mouth wide and panted, for I longed for your commandments.” (Psalm 119:131) If we could only get out of our own way God wants to transform us through His word, James tries to help us with that by reminding us to be quick to hear, slow to speak, and slow to anger.
Of Rudders and Bits James 3:3-5
There is a battle we all fight every day: conquering our tongues. James 3:8 But no human being can tame the tongue. Our tongues are powerful. A Google search revealed 19 pages of scriptures that refer to the tongue and its power for good or destructiveness !!!! “Death and life are in the power of the tongue” (Prov. 18:21) Proverbs 12:18 “There is one whose rash words are like sword thrusts…” James chapter three details the power of the tongue for good and bad. James 3:9 With it we bless our Lord and Father, and with it we curse people who are made in the likeness of God. 10 From the same mouth come blessing and cursing. My brothers, these things ought not to be so.”
The Battles We Fight
1.We make assumptions sometimes and tell them to others. In Acts 21:37-41 we read that Paul was the subject of a widely communicate false assumption that could have cost him his life.
2.The Lying Tongue Acts 5:3 Proverbs 6:16-19
3.The Boasting Tongue Luke 18:9-14
4.The Gossiping Tongue Proverbs 20:19
5.The Critical Tongue Ephesians 4:29
6.The Double Tongue James 3:9
7.The Hateful Tongue Ephesians 4:31-32
8.The Retribution Tongue 1 Peter 3:9
9. The Explosive Tongue James 3:8
10.The Correcting Tongue Ephesians 4:29 Matthew 18:15-17
The Right Uses of the Tongue
There are many ways to constructively use our tongues:
1. To praise God (take time to read through Psalms 148, 149 and 150!)
2.To pray to God 1 Peter 5:7
3.To sing to the Lord (Read Psalm 96).
4.To encourage and help others (So many good ways to do this!)
5.Also consider these scriptures: Mark 9:50 Romans 12:10 Galatians 6:2 Ephesians 4:32 Colossians 3:16 1 Thessalonians 5:11 Hebrews 3:13 Hebrews 10:24 James 5 :16